8 Things I've Learned About Marriage After Being Married A Month

Today marks the one month anniversary for me and my wonderful husband Cameron, and it has been the best, and most amazing month of my life. Our wedding was such a whirlwind, and things have finally died down a bit since then to leave us, two married people, and a whole lot of  learning to do. Here are 8 things that I have learned so far since I have been married. I'm definitely no expert, but these are just some simple truths that I have discovered as a married woman.

1. In the event of an argument: Feed husband immediately, he is probably Hangry. (Hangry: A combination between hunger and angry). Seriously, we don't argue much, but when it happens, eating something sure helps us both!

2. People are Judgemental. Yes, I'm only 21, yes I married young, but YES. I am happier than I have ever been. I did NOT settle.  I did give things up when I got married- I gave up awkward dinner dates, I gave up being lonely, and I gave up being incomplete. I knew what I was doing when I married my best friend, and it is a blessing I married him because he is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Thank you for asking.

3. Marriage is hard. Marriage is sort of like being in a foreign country, and not being able to speak the language very well. It can be stressful at first, and confusing too, but it is so wonderful to go places you've never been, and to learn to communicate easier as well. Slowly but surely that once stressful chaotic place will be a safe haven. (Luckily, my husband is amazing, he helps me, and loves me, and makes the marriage transition a pleasure).

4. I am not perfect, and that is TOTALLY FINE. The Lord loves me, and my husband loves me, and even though things aren't always perfect, trying my best is all I can do. Each day, I strive for improvement, and each day I learn new things.

5. Differences keep things interesting, and similarities keep us close. We love each other for both our differences and our similarities.

6. Nightly prayer saves us! Holding hands while talking to God makes our relationship incredibly special. Having God in the center of our marriage has made us appreciative for this life changing adventure together. Praying at night prevents us from going to bed angry, and gives us gratitude for days past, and hope for days to come.

7. Things don't always go as planned. We have learned to adjust our sails when the wind doesn't take us where we desire to go. We adjust the sails on a daily basis and have become quite good at it. We work together to solve problems, and we are comforted to know that we are on the same team (thank goodness!).

8. We are still us. Ashley and Cameron are still just as Ashley and Cameron as they were before they got married. We do dorky things, we mess around, we hang out, we love to go out, and we enjoy all of the things we did before we got married. The only thing that is different about us is that we live at the same address now.

One of my favorite quotes about marriage that I completely agree with!:


-Ashley

I'm ENGAGED!

I haven't updated in a couple of months because I have been so busy, but here is a recap of what happened two weeks ago! Disclaimer, this entry is so cheesy that lactose intolerant people (myself being one of them), might feel the effects after reading this post if you know what I mean. Alright, here is the full story, I hope you enjoy it!

Once upon a time, I met Cameron William Cox. We were friends in college, and currently, we have known each other for over a year. We stayed in contact, even when we were separated over the summer, and our friendship continued, and I shall have you know, I did NOT come to school at BYU-I(do), to get married. One day, at the beginning of last semester, Cameron asked me out and...I came home and cried. Not because he was weird, or smelled like celery, but it was that we were friends and I didn't want to date and have things go south, I didn't want to hurt our friendship, which I cherished. I agreed to let him take me out, and our first date was to the Teton Dam, on our first date, Cameron spilled his soda on me. What a keeper. ;)

After about 3 weeks and many dates, we became official. I had already met most of his family, and I tried to dump him 2 times, still afraid that if we got too serious, it might mess up our friendship, to counteract that, naturally, we started dating officially. Yes. Our first kiss was an accident, and when it happened I looked at him for about ten solid minutes unable to believe it happened! I went in to kiss him on the cheek (he did it to me, it was only fair that I get to do it to him) and he kissed me right on the mouth. :* We dated for 5 months, he asked my dad for permission, and got it, and on February 21st, he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him.

 "Will you?"

Well, he lied to me, and said he didn't have the ring, but of course, he did. He lied to me and said that we were going to celebrate his brothers birthday a day early. He lied and said a bunch of his family was coming to celebrate this brothers birthday. He lied and said he wasn't going to proposed until March. And I believed him, and was completely surprised. We decided to go and "feed the ducks" (that's what they are calling it these days apparently), so that Cameron's nephews could run around and play, but we got separated from his family and were walking down on a pier in Idaho Falls. We stopped and he proposed with the Idaho Falls temple in the background, and a bunch of flashing camera's from the bush next to us! I don't know if he knows what he is getting himself into, because I sleep punch, and eat cheese and Nutella together, and do other bizzare things, but I do know one thing: Cameron makes me so happy and I can think of nothing better than to be with him for eternity.

"Yes. A million times over!"

Just after he proposed-We are SO happy!!!

Here is my BEAUTIFUL ring!!!

I just want to say a quick thank you to all who could come, and all who helped out! I love you all. I am so excited to become Mrs. Ashley Cox!

So now you know what my life has been like, and I can't even think about wedding things until I finish this semester or my grades will all tank. Not focusing on a wedding is so difficult, but it will be okay. The good Lord loves me, and I am so happy with things! I never thought I'd get to call Cameron mine, but I wouldn't trade him for anything. Have a great week!

-Ashley!